My current personal development is the book The 12 Week Year, by Brian P. Moran and Michael Lennington. It’s all about treating 12 weeks as a whole year, so that every 12 weeks you are setting a new “year’s” goal, with every day representing a full week in that year. I’m still reading and figuring it all out, but I was listening to the audio version yesterday and this quote rang out like an alarm – waking me up from my haze of meh-ness:
When an individual is reluctant to take the necessary actions required to accomplish their goal, it is an indication that they own their current comfort more than they own the future described their vision.
Holy crap. This is 100% me and it stings. I have been staying safe in my current comfort zone, using rationale like time, money, security to stay right where I am. I can make vision boards and write down my goals like a champion, and put in SOME of the work necessary, but I have been staying right smack-dab in the middle of my comfort zone. Yes, security matters and we cannot afford to not make it priority, but I have definitely be playing it safe. There is a lot more I could be doing to move my goals forward without jeopardizing our family’s comfort.
One thing is blatantly clear – I have been using these excuses to avoid the FEAR. When it comes down to it, I am doing what I am COMFORTABLE doing, what isn’t scary. I fear making mistakes, I fear taking risks, I fear trying new things, I fear failing.
There is a direct parallel here to my weight loss journey. I tried easy ways to lose weight, I tried for time-limited periods, I set short-term goals, but it wasn’t until I finally made my goals and future vision MORE IMPORTANT than the current comfort I was in, that I truly committed to my goal. And it was then that I saw real and lasting success.
I can’t say what I’m going to do to fix this, as I’m honestly not sure. I haven’t figured out the HOW yet, but I feel like it’s a huge step forward just recognizing the WHY. But I will put that quote in big, bold letters in my planner, on my desk, on my bathroom mirror.
Do you own your current comfort more than your future vision? How badly do you want it?