Mr Awesome and I just went live on my Facebook page to talk about something important. I have talked to a ton of moms who feel like they can’t “ask” for more time to workout or do they things THEY need to feel better. They feel guilty, or selfish, and they continuously put yourself last.
But here’s the thing. You need to take care of YOU, so that you can take care of your family. It’s like when you’re on the plane and they tell you to put on your own oxygen mask first, and THEN help the person beside you. It’s not selfish. If you pass out helping the other person first, then what good is that? Back when I worked for the Canadian Breast Cancer Foundation, I used to see a lot of women that would put off getting a mammogram because they always put themselves last. A potentially lifesaving test.
If you are looking to make some healthy changes in your life that might impact your family’s schedule, TALK TO THEM. Talk to your partner. If your kids are old enough, tell them about it. Tell them WHY it is important to you. Share with them that you want to feel better, you want to be healthier. And then make a plan TOGETHER. Even if it’s something as simple as getting out for a walk with a girlfriend once a week, figure out together how your schedules or plans may need to shift to make it possible.
When I started my weight loss journey seven years ago, we needed to figure out how our schedule would allow for at least two hours roundtrip to get to the gym, plus my weekly Weight Watchers meetings. Fast forward to now and it’s way easier – with working out at home and my online accountability groups it’s WAY more manageable, but we still need to make sure our schedules are worked out, our needs are all being met, and our priorities work together.
Don’t underestimate your family. They love you and they want you to feel the very best you can. If they understand why it’s important to you and they’re invested in making it work, you CAN DO IT. Don’t make them the excuse you can’t take action without giving them the opportunity to support you.
Put on your own oxygen mask first. Take care of YOU so that you can take care of your family.
Here’s the live video we did, talking about this: