I was driving to work this morning and listening to my all-time favourite personal development book, 5 Second Rule by Mel Robbins. I must have listened to this book on Audible at least four times, plus I own the hard copy and have read it all the way through. It’s funny how no matter how many times you might hear something, something new always pops out. Depending on where you are in your life, what you’re working on or going through, some new nugget of brilliance will smack you over the head.
That’s what happened this morning. She was talking about our “future selves” – the version of ourselves that we want to become. When you find yourself hesitating, or procrastinating, you ask yourself – “How would my future self respond in this situation?” For example, my future self is so motivated by her fitness success, that she has no issue jumping out of bed. She knows the progress that she will make and she knows how to get it done. So if I eventually want to BECOME that future self, you know, in the future…I actually have to start ACTING like her NOW. And then – spoiler alert – that is actually how the future self becomes the present.
My future self consistently makes good choices when it comes to food. My future self avoids temptation and uses strategies, like the 5 Second Rule, to say no to the extras. When a tempting treat gets too close, my future self says 5-4-3-2-1 and moves away, or says “No thank you.” And my FUTURE future self doesn’t even have to count.
Think about your work. What does your future work self look like? How do they approach situations to get the job done? What daily activities do they do out of habit, because that’s what needs to happen to move things forward? It’s kind of like the job interview advice: Dress for the job you want. If you dress and act like you future self…then you will eventually BECOME your future self. It will take some conscious effort at first, and again, that’s there the 5 Second Rule comes in. But eventually it becomes second nature and you just ARE that new self.
I think about my work, and my side business. I work full time, have two kids, a husband, two cats, a fitness routine…and I also have my coaching business. My future self is completely organized and has it all dialled, but my present self still struggles and often feels overwhelmed. I recently started using “business hours” for my coaching, instead of being reactive and doing it all the time, all over the place. I turned off my Facebook message notifications and now check in three times a day, at set times. That way I can actually FOCUS my brain on my tasks and my challengers, instead of feeling like I’m always playing catch up. Making that simple change is something my future self would definitely use regularly and commit to in order to keep her business on track, and it’s already helping me feel like my life is a bit more manageable. The system works!
What would your future self do? What choices would she or he would make that you could implement NOW?